Fear of flying? A look at the phobia and how to address it


For many families, the idea of jumping on a plane to a sunny beach or a new destination is filled with excitement and joy. But for some, especially children, flying can feel overwhelming.

Fear of flying, or aviophobia, is more common than we think and can spoil what should be a fun adventure. As parents, guardians, or teachers, it’s important to approach this anxiety with understanding, patience, and practical strategies.

In this blog, we’ll explore why children can develop a fear of flying and what causes these anxieties. We’ll also share expert-backed tips that will help if you’re facing this issue.

Whether you’re planning your next holiday or simply looking to help your child face their fears, I hope this guide will provide you with the tools that you need.

Why are children afraid of flying?

Just like adults, children’s fears can stem from various reasons. While adults may have some understanding of the mechanics of flying or the ability to rationalise their anxiety, children must rely on emotions and imagination, which can turn the unknown into something very scary.

● Fear of the unknown: Planes are massive, loud, and unfamiliar. The concept of flying, especially for a sensitive child experiencing it for the first time, can be overwhelming. They’re not used to being in the air, surrounded by strangers, with strange sounds like the hum of the engine or turbulence that they’ve never felt before.

● Hearing scary stories: Children are wee sponges. They may overhear stories of turbulence and accidents or even see movies where plane crashes are dramatised. Their vivid imaginations can run wild, creating a huge mental block around the idea of flying.

● Loss of control: Unlike a car ride, where children are familiar with the process and the journey, a plane ride can feel much more disconnected and abstract. The idea of being in the air, with no control over what happens next, can cause lots of anxiety.

● Separation anxiety: Flying might also mean leaving home, a safe space, or being away from family members. The thought of this separation and the anxiety of flying can double the fear for some children.

Personal story: Facing my own child’s fear

I remember taking my son on his first flight at age three. At the airport, he was excited, but as we neared the boarding gate, I noticed him clinging tighter to my hand. Once we boarded, I could see his face tightening with worry, and when the engines roared to life, he started to cry.

As a parent, I hated to see him scared, but I realised this was a moment when we could either face this fear together or let it grow into something bigger. I gave him his favourite (very bedraggled but precious) stuffed cat, talked him through what was happening, explained every sound and movement, and assured him we were safe.

Over time, he relaxed, and by the end of the flight, he was proudly looking out of the window, mesmerised by the clouds below us. It wasn’t a quick fix, but it was the beginning of helping him manage his fear of flying. Now, he’s training to be a marine biologist, and it’s his ambition to travel as much as possible. Thank goodness he’s not afraid anymore!

What the experts say about fear of flying in children

Many experts, including child psychologists, agree that the right support and strategies can overcome a child’s fear of flying.

Dr Martin Seif, a clinical psychologist specialises in anxiety disorders and fear of flying. “Anxiety asks you to avoid, but what you want to do is turn a 180 and move in manageable steps toward the areas of discomfort,” he explains. What he’s saying is that gradual exposure will help desensitise children to the unfamiliar experience of flying and make their fear more manageable over time.

Our travel expert, Linda, adds that involving children in travel planning can alleviate anxiety. “Let children know what to expect,” she suggests. “Show them pictures of the airport and the plane, and talk through each step of the journey so they feel more in control.”

6 practical tips for addressing fear of flying

Here are some steps you can take to help your child overcome their fear of flying, based on advice from other psychologists and travel experts:

1. Normalise the experience

Introduce your child to the idea of flying long before your trip. Watch videos together about aeroplanes, airports, and even some cartoons that depict flying as an adventure.

If possible, visit an airport in advance and let them see planes take off and land. Explain what’s happening so they understand that flying is routine for millions of people every day – and it’s very safe.

2. Address specific fears

Some children are scared of the sounds or sensations of flying. Take time to explain the noises they will hear: the whirring of engines, the feeling of takeoff, and the occasional bump from turbulence. Turn it into a game or story where Kaleido or their favourite toy experiences these things with them.

3. Create a familiar environment

When you travel, bring items that comfort your child, like a favourite blanket, stuffed toy, or even a book they love. Having something from home can help them feel safe and grounded. When my son was young, his cat became his ‘travel buddy.’ It was something familiar amidst all the unfamiliar sensations.

4. Introduce relaxation techniques

Teach your child simple breathing exercises or visualisation techniques. Have them close their eyes and imagine they are in a calm, safe place on the plane. Some families use guided meditation apps designed for children to help them stay relaxed during the flight.

5. Turn the journey into an adventure

Make the flight part of the adventure rather than just the means to get to the destination. Pack a small bag with treats, toys, and activities that they can only open or use when they’re on the plane. This will create a positive experience and distract them from focusing on their fear.

6. Stay calm yourself

Children often take emotional cues from their parents. It can be tough, but remaining calm and relaxed during the flight will reassure your child. Avoid using language like ‘there’s nothing to be scared of’—instead, acknowledge their feelings while maintaining a confident, soothing tone.

When professional help might be needed

While many children can overcome their fear of flying with gentle support, others need some additional help. If your child’s fear is deeply ingrained or begins interfering with other aspects of life, consulting a child psychologist might be worth it – although it’s not always easy to find one or get an appointment.

Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) has been proven effective in helping children manage and overcome phobias. A professional will provide targeted strategies to reduce anxiety and build confidence. When my son was young, a book called What to Do When You Worry Too Much by Dawn Huebner was recommended. Its exercises work as CBT for kids, and it helped him a lot.

If you’re struggling with your child’s anxiety and long waiting lists are causing you a lot of frustration and worry, then why not try contacting a charity? Many people are concerned about how anxious many young children are and are there to help – you’re not alone.

Kaleido has been working with the wonderful team at a charity called Megan’s Space – their new website is almost ready, but in the meantime, visit them on Facebook if you need help or advice.

Turning fear into excitement

As parents, we try to prevent irrational fear and turn it into fun and excitement. With preparation and support, a child’s fear of flying can transform into curiosity and a love for travel. With its blend of fun, education, and exploration, we want Kaleido’s Adventures to be a great tool for helping children view the world and travel with positivity rather than fear.

So next time you’re getting ready for a trip, take a deep breath, pack a favourite toy (a cuddly Kaleido is coming soon), and remind your child that every journey is just another adventure story!

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